We all live within a complex social network. One of the most difficult things to do within this network is to maintain and build upon our relationships. Relationships which we value, derive our strength from and which give us a sense of belonging. These relationships can be with your partner, parents, siblings, cousins, friends, work colleagues and even online social network friends.
If you really value and cherish some of your relationships and want them to last forever, then please stop taking them for granted. It is not enough to just remember special dates but more importantly, it is imperative for you to be there for them when they need you the most, standing by their side, hearing them out patiently, even when it is difficult for them to make sense because they could be in a trauma, hurt or confused.
If you need them in your life, you need to reciprocate to their needs in the same way you want them to react to yours. It sounds simple, but hard to put into practice.
Moving into 2012, make yourself one promise that you will treat your precious relationships with care, and trust me you will feel a massive guilt off your conscience.
One smart tip to keep your close relationships fresh is to maintain a small separation, a breather or time to reflect, just when you feel that you have started to take your relationships for granted, give them a break and if they were really important to you, you will realise their value and go back to them with new impetus.
I think everyone needs to take a step back and read this. We take waaaay too much for granted in our life, including me :)
ReplyDeleteThe structure of complexity is a very diverse, emergent, interdependent, connected, adaptive robustness leading to intense irregular or regular patterns and functions.
ReplyDeletei agree completely!
ReplyDeletemany times we take so long to realize that even the most naturally formed relationships of our lives,our first ever, our blood relationships, too were nurtured subconsciously, by a regular give and take process of fulfilling our mutual basic emotional, psychological and physical needs!!! but we never felt the need of keeping a record of the gives and takes because that was a continuous process of developing a natural relationsip of love.
the only difference that comes with the passage of time and with all our other consciously and formally formed relationships is that we begin to calculate and compare the ratio and percentage of gives/takes from our side and the gives/takes from the other side!!!
this blocks and breaks both the continuity and the naturalness!!!!
Relationships whether blood or otherwise not just require give/take but this accompanied with forgivness , acceptence and tolerance .. And most importanly without any expectations . Which in todays day and age is almost impossible to achieve 'coz a dearth of something called "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE" ... We r selfish beings with the greed for MORE !! Unfortunately
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